This morning I had decided to write a recipe post about whatever I cook up for breakfast, but by the time I got to the kitchen I had decided against it because to be honest I can’t make breakfast. I can make lunch and dinner no problem, but the saying “she’d burn water” applies to me when it comes to breakfast, I burnt scrambled eggs… I think I’ll stick with cereal.
So, instead of a breakfast post on how to make avocado toast I came up with a book review of the most recent book I’ve read, Essays in Love by Alain De Botton.
The Amazon product description: ESSAYS IN LOVE WILL APPEAL TO ANYONE TO HAS EVER BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP OR CONFUSED ABOUT LOVE. THE BOOK CHARTS THE PROGRESS OF A RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN, FROM THEIR FIRST KISS TO THE ONSET OF ANXIETY AND HEARTBREAK. THE WORK’S GENIUS LIES IN THE WAY IT MINUTELY ANALYSIS EMOTIONS WE’VE ALL FELT BEFORE BUT HAVE PERHAPS NEVER UNDERSTOOD SO WELL. IT INCLUDES A CHAPTER ON: HOW AND WHEN TO SAY ‘I LOVE YOU’ AND THE CHALLENGES OF DISAGREEING. – not sure why it’s in all caps, promise I just copied and pasted it, I’m not yelling.
To be completely honest, I’m really not sure I liked this book. It wasn’t what I was expecting at all. Sure, it’s narrative and promises what the description says will be in the book. But, as a sociology student reading a book by a philosopher, it felt like a lecture at some points. I did my best not to zone out and to pay attention to what I was reading, because I had genuinely been really excited about this book – turns out it felt more like a lecture and not like I was reading the thoughts of one of my peers.
I did highlight a couple things though that I do want to share – oh and if you ever let me borrow a book it’s seriously going to take every fiber of my being not to highlight the shit out of every sentence I love.
“One has to go into relationships with equal expectations, ready to give as much as the other – not with one wanting a fling and the other real love.” (pg, 24.)
“Because only the body is open to the eye, the hope of the infatuated lover is that the soul is faithful to its casing, that the body owns an appropriate soul, that what the skin represents turns out to be what it is.” (pg, 92.)
“prefer the risk of being wrong and in love to being in doubt and without love.” (pg, 97.)
“At the end of a relationship, it is the one who is not in love who makes the tender speeches.” (pg, 170.)
You can interpret the quotes as you may. Overall, it was a good book – will I reread it or reference back to it some day, probably not. But it was a good read and I’d recommend it to people who read more of a philosophy angled book versus a novel.